How you measure your progress and success will speak volumes as to how you are thinking about yourself. Acknowledging and giving credit to yourself will build up your accomplishments. Treating each step with love and gratitude will keep you grounded and empowered.
I think this sounds great- but if you’re more like me, this is a complicated task. I’m the first to admit that I’m a perfectionist. I’m also a Type A personality. Combining the two makes me very successful at attaining my goals, but it also makes me a very successful self-sabotager.
When I don’t work out five days a week, or I eat chocolate, I make a mental note about how I’m going to make up for that later. While it keeps me accountable, it can be so defeating at the same time. Being a perfectionist can set you up for failure. No one can achieve perfection all the time.
It’s important to have strategies in place to help keep you excited and motivated about the changes you are making! Be aware of the words you are using with yourself- use caution with words like never and always. Give credit where credit is due. Recognize what is within your control and let go of the things that aren’t. You will come out ahead in the long run realizing that you are human. Just do the best you can each day. If the best you have today is getting up, going to work, and coming home… that’s okay! You have made it through 100% of your bad days, so you still are coming out on top.
Balance your self-improvement with your self-acceptance. Try not to let becoming a better version of you become an obsession.
Making a change for you is the most important step. Your goal should be a deep-rooted desire that speaks to your inner soul. If this goal is something you should do, or your spouse thinks you should do, or something you feel pressured to do, take a step back. Reevaluate and refine until it’s something you are ready to commit to.
And then when you’re ready, love yourself enough to start the journey.